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Posted by Michelle (216.52.51.130) on February 10, 2005 at 08:55:55:

In Reply to: Salsa snobs posted by Salsa observer on February 01, 2005 at 08:49:48:

To be honest, this snob discussion is getting on my nerves. I have been refused by people that I, at the time, conveniently think of as snobby. People have the right to dance with whomever they want and, yes, there are snobs in every group...there are groups of friends that are very open to dancing with other people but in reality tend to stick to themselves because it's fun and easy to dance with the people that you know -- those groups can be intimidating and are not easy to break into...there are people who will dance with you when you ask them but seem to only ask those they hope to get the number of...there are superficially friendly people who will stab you when your back is turned and there are genuinely friendly people...there are those that just won't dance with you anymore (or in the first place) and you don't know why so you call them a snob.

Mostly, we all want to be better dancers, we want to make friends, we want to feel included and we want to have fun doing something that we enjoy doing with people that we like. After spending more time in the 'scene', finding your place in it, gaining more confidence in your own skill, one comes to understand that everyone (including yourself) has demons that they are dealing with, issues, snobbery and likable sides...the best thing that we can do is work to not be a snob ourselves, try have a good time with whomever is put in our path -- good or bad dancer, young or old, ugly or incredible looking --, try not to hurt another person's feelings with bad dance etiquette or plain ole rudeness and try not to let your own feelings get hurt by some bozo's behavior but if they are, recognize that the problem is more theirs than yours and go have a good time despite them.

Truly, in my opinion, the Boston salsa community is a dysfunctional, imperfect family...just like everyone's elses...no better, no worse.

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: To be honest, this snob discussion is getting on my nerves. I have been refused by people that I, at the time, conveniently think of as snobby. People have the right to dance with whomever they want and, yes, there are snobs in every group...there are groups of friends that are very open to dancing with other people but in reality tend to stick to themselves because it's fun and easy to dance with the people that you know -- those groups can be intimidating and are not easy to break into...there are people who will dance with you when you ask them but seem to only ask those they hope to get the number of...there are superficially friendly people who will stab you when your back is turned and there are genuinely friendly people...there are those that just won't dance with you anymore (or in the first place) and you don't know why so you call them a snob. : : Mostly, we all want to be better dancers, we want to make friends, we want to feel included and we want to have fun doing something that we enjoy doing with people that we like. After spending more time in the 'scene', finding your place in it, gaining more confidence in your own skill, one comes to understand that everyone (including yourself) has demons that they are dealing with, issues, snobbery and likable sides...the best thing that we can do is work to not be a snob ourselves, try have a good time with whomever is put in our path -- good or bad dancer, young or old, ugly or incredible looking --, try not to hurt another person's feelings with bad dance etiquette or plain ole rudeness and try not to let your own feelings get hurt by some bozo's behavior but if they are, recognize that the problem is more theirs than yours and go have a good time despite them. : Truly, in my opinion, the Boston salsa community is a dysfunctional, imperfect family...just like everyone's elses...no better, no worse.

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