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Posted by Olaf (24.61.59.201) on February 16, 2005 at 14:02:12:

In Reply to: SALSA SNOBS--HELLO PEOPLE-Marrige Considerations posted by Pomarosa on February 11, 2005 at 17:30:23:

: Did anybody care to think maybe, just maybe, some of us are MARRIED OR ENGAGED and out of respect to our partners we have to decline an invite!! I mean gee wiz, are we obligated to say yes just becuase we have been asked! Begginer, intermediate or otherwise, Please think, not everybody is a single person in that scene.

Well, that's a good point, but having been in very serious relationships, I did find that I still wanted to dance. There is nothing I find that requires "involved" people to not dance with others. In fact, that was a big part of why I stayed with Salsa--people were there *to dance* first and foremost.

You can of course refuse for that reason, but I would say that doesn't necessarily make a healthy relationship. To me a relationship is about trust, and that extends to my significant other dancing with others. In other words, I trust that my SO is dancing for the purpose of enjoyment, not to pick up someone else. You have to be good with that concept though. Not everyone's cup of tea.

Cheers,
-Olaf

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: : Did anybody care to think maybe, just maybe, some of us are MARRIED OR ENGAGED and out of respect to our partners we have to decline an invite!! I mean gee wiz, are we obligated to say yes just becuase we have been asked! Begginer, intermediate or otherwise, Please think, not everybody is a single person in that scene. : Well, that's a good point, but having been in very serious relationships, I did find that I still wanted to dance. There is nothing I find that requires "involved" people to not dance with others. In fact, that was a big part of why I stayed with Salsa--people were there *to dance* first and foremost. : You can of course refuse for that reason, but I would say that doesn't necessarily make a healthy relationship. To me a relationship is about trust, and that extends to my significant other dancing with others. In other words, I trust that my SO is dancing for the purpose of enjoyment, not to pick up someone else. You have to be good with that concept though. Not everyone's cup of tea. : Cheers, : -Olaf : :

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